How Indian Males Are Confused About What Marriage Stands For

“Shikha, can you discover my belt, I couldn’t discover it?” “Shikha are you able to make Rajma as my mom does?” “Shikha, my shirt isn’t ironed! You forgot to iron it and now I don’t have garments to put on to the workplace!” “Shikha, you didn’t wake me up within the morning and now I’m late for the workplace!”… my husband’s record of complaints in opposition to me is infinite. However this isn’t simply me. I’ve met so many Indian women and men who make me consider that Indian Males are actually confused about what marriage stands for.

Ugly reality of modern marriage
Screengrab: Thappad (T-Sequence)

Our society suffers from ‘Raja Beta’ Syndrome that raises pampered sons and horrible husbands! These males assume that ladies are there to serve them. Be it their mom, spouse, daughter, or sister. They consider that they’re entitled to make infinite calls for to them and the ladies are anticipated to ship. That’s the core cause why Indian marriages have grow to be a lure for Indian ladies to surrender their independence, desires, and happiness for his or her husbands! Indian marriages are dropping their significance due to turning into an establishment the place ladies endure and males get pleasure from!

Being a powerful and unbiased girl, I by no means felt the necessity to marry. I by no means needed to have the identical destiny as that of my mom. Whereas I used to be dwelling my life by myself phrases, my mom and father felt the urge to get married. And, after taking a powerful stand in opposition to my very own dad and mom, I gave up! I gave as much as the strain of society’s unrealistic label of ‘being settled’ solely in case you are married! I shut my internal voice of main life as per my phrases, simply because I acquired blinded by the love of my dad and mom!

Now after being married for five years and listening to infinite tales of my buddies, cousins, and colleagues, I’ve come to the conclusion that Indian males are confused between the life accomplice and babysitter. Sadly, nearly all of Indian males desire a babysitter and never an equal accomplice. They need somebody who takes care of them, handles them with care after they throw tantrums, and fulfill their calls for – justified or unjustified.

As I write this brief letter, I’ve a humble request to oldsters to cease elevating spoilt males. And, I wish to let each woman know – it doesn’t matter what your age is – marriage doesn’t make you settled. It’s your profession, independence, and self-reliance. So, relatively than getting married to a person who treats you want a babysitter or maid, both be single or wait to marry somebody who understands the distinction between a soulmate and a maid!

I hope each Indian woman reads this letter earlier than its too late! And, hope each Indian dad or mum makes positive that they don’t increase unhealthy husbands! As a result of we have already got so many unhealthy husbands, that we don’t want extra!

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